The Pursuit of Happiness...

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(especially when you're asian. sometimes i just wanna whip it out and say "Hey! look at how big I am!")

I agree with Cyanide. I think the way to get yourself out of a rut and be happy again is to set yourself goals and achieve them. I was down like crazy when I couldn't play a full court game of basketball for over 2 years, but now I'm getting closer and my knees are getting stronger each day. I feel alot better than I did 6 months ago.

I developed myopia and while mine is mild (1 or 1.5), it frustrates the hell out of me and I got down because I couldn't face the fact I would have to wear glasses or contacts to see liek everyone else. It may sound stupid, but it really affected me. I was in between the point of having to wear glasses to see properly and not needing glasses, so I was stuck in the middle. I made a goal to fix my eyesight and I bought a book, waited a few weeks for it to arrive and started. 3 days later I'm seeing improvement, and feeling alot better. It's a real weight off my chest to know that I have full control of my eyesight.

Another thing I want to do is visit America while I'm still young. I want to experience college life. That's my next goal. I love to travel, yet I haven't be outside of the country. Leaving here for a holiday would be a dream come true.

When your down, you have little hope. You need to set yourself goals and match them. Each one you acheive, you bring yourself a step higher. Depression is a dangerous thing, so I'd do is as soon as possible before you get swallowed up by it (not meaning you Q, but anyone).

[NBJ]

When i touched the rim for the first this tuesday, damn, i was happy

[shadowgrin]

Gay now is the old fashion word of being happy, so gay means gay as in homo.

You're queer man.

I'm far from happy.

We know.Keep you're head up and keep up the fight.

Pussy. Everyday. Several times a day.

Preach the truth. Preach it.

no sense of desire

Then one is truly happy when that happens. As Buddhist text says "Desire is the cause of suffering". It's an endless cycle of desiring something, getting it, then desiring again. You're never satisfied.

(especially when you're asian. sometimes i just wanna whip it out and say "Hey! look at how big I am!")

You're ashamed of being Asian? I strip you of your honor.
Please don't show it to the ladies, you don't want to feel like this..

[Matt]

Cy & Lax pretty much summed it up. You need some goals as well as things to occupy you right now.

[Patr1ck]

Pussy. Everyday. Several times a day.

Preach the truth. Preach it.

He's the only one who got it. We have seven cats. They are cute, cuddily and fun to play with. That makes me happy, even if it's only for that moment.

Ingesting a mix of Cyanide and Laxatives has given me a goal of stopping up the toilet.I'm not trying to take a shot at you guys, I just thought that was clever and funny.

In all seriousness, let's get more specific with the goals, QBaller. What are your passions? What do you like to do? What did you do when you were happy that you don't do anymore?

[cyanide]

Then one is truly happy when that happens. As Buddhist text says "Desire is the cause of suffering". It's an endless cycle of desiring something, getting it, then desiring again. You're never satisfied.

Actually, you're right. "Desire" wasn't the right choice of word. I should've just stuck to something like, "When you have everything you want, it's easy to become unhappy since everything is now attainable and there's no enjoyment in pursuing." Or something.

[Riot]

I'm a homophobe? I don't like the lifestyle

The fact that you consider it a "lifestyle" (as if every gay person lives in largely the same manner) says that you are. It's a sexual orientation, not a lifestyle.

You live a completely different lifestyle than me if you let some other dude stick it up your butt. It is sexual orientation, but I believe the effects alter more than just who you get busy with. It usually comes full circle.

[TheMC5]

I'm a homophobe? I don't like the lifestyle

The fact that you consider it a "lifestyle" (as if every gay person lives in largely the same manner) says that you are. It's a sexual orientation, not a lifestyle.

You live a completely different lifestyle than me if you let some other dude stick it up your butt. It is sexual orientation, but I believe the effects alter more than just who you get busy with. It usually comes full circle.

That's simply not true. Having gay sex does not mean someone lives a "completely different" lifestyle than you, just that their lifestyle is different in one inconsequential way. What about gays in the military? Any of the homosexuals over in Iraq living totally different lifestyles than their straight contemporaries? No, they're doing the exact same stuff, only instead of wishing they could get some pussy, they're wishing they could get some cock. How is this a lifestyle difference?

[Riot]

I'm a homophobe? I don't like the lifestyle

The fact that you consider it a "lifestyle" (as if every gay person lives in largely the same manner) says that you are. It's a sexual orientation, not a lifestyle.

You live a completely different lifestyle than me if you let some other dude stick it up your butt. It is sexual orientation, but I believe the effects alter more than just who you get busy with. It usually comes full circle.

That's simply not true. Having gay sex does not mean someone lives a "completely different" lifestyle than you, just that their lifestyle is different in one inconsequential way. What about gays in the military? Any of the homosexuals over in Iraq living totally different lifestyles than their straight contemporaries? No, they're doing the exact same stuff, only instead of wishing they could get some pussy, they're wishing they could get some cock. How is this a lifestyle difference?

What about the ones who drape themselves in the gay pride flag? The ones who try to "market" themselves for guys openly.

Most guys live their lives trying to impress women. So we do certain things to get their attention. Gay people do the opposite of us and has an effect on their life. Hence lifestyle.

DEFINITION OF LIFESTYLE: In sociology a lifestyle is the way a person lives. This includes patterns of social relations, consumption, entertainment, and dress. A lifestyle typically also reflects an individual's attitudes, values or worldview.

If you cannot see how a gay man and a straight man have different lifestyles then we obviously should just agree to disagree. The few gay people I know, atleast that are open about it, have completely different tastes in entertainment and dress than most straight people.

The major difference is you are comparing normal people to gay people who have to act normal because it is condemed. That is not their normal lifestyle. You need to look at the people who are openly gay because those are the people who fully live that lifestyle...you are too busy looking at the people who are trying to blend in and hide it. How the hell is that helping prove your point?

[TheMC5]

The major difference is you are comparing normal people to gay people who have to act normal because it is condemed. That is not their normal lifestyle. You need to look at the people who are openly gay because those are the people who fully live that lifestyle...you are too busy looking at the people who are trying to blend in and hide it. How the hell is that helping prove your point?

Again, that is simply not true. You're taking one aspect of a person's behavior and applying it their entire lives, as well as making a lot of erroneous assumptions about the specific gay people in question. The majority of openly gay people are not uber-flamboyant, nor are all the non-flamboyant gays trying to "blend in and hide it". You also seem to be basing these assumptions on "the few gay people (you) know", as if they represent an accurate cross-section of all gays. Just to contrast that, the MANY openly gay people I know mostly live very normal lives/lifestyles, and vary widely in their age, ethnicity, socio-economic background, which makes me think they might be a more accurate cross-section than the few you know.

Just keep sticking your foot in your mouth. The more your post, the more homophobic you look.

[bigh0rt]

The major difference is you are comparing normal people to gay people

Can't we just compare gay people to straight people instead?

[Riot]

Again, that is simply not true. You're taking one aspect of a person's behavior and applying it their entire lives, as well as making a lot of erroneous assumptions about the specific gay people in question. The majority of openly gay people are not uber-flamboyant, nor are all the non-flamboyant gays trying to "blend in and hide it". You also seem to be basing these assumptions on "the few gay people (you) know", as if they represent an accurate cross-section of all gays. Just to contrast that, the MANY openly gay people I know mostly live very normal lives/lifestyles, and vary widely in their age, ethnicity, socio-economic background, which makes me think they might be a more accurate cross-section than the few you know.

Just keep sticking your foot in your mouth. The more your post, the more homophobic you look.

Of course they vary in ages...they age just like the rest of us.

Anyways, I don't really give a flying fuck if you think I'm a homophobe or not. If it makes you feel good to ride on your high horse and say how open minded you are then more power to you. I know what I am and that is completely fine with me. It obviously makes you feel better about yourself and as long as you are happy and content with your personality then so am I.

Have a good fuckin' night, dude.

[TheMC5]

Again, that is simply not true. You're taking one aspect of a person's behavior and applying it their entire lives, as well as making a lot of erroneous assumptions about the specific gay people in question. The majority of openly gay people are not uber-flamboyant, nor are all the non-flamboyant gays trying to "blend in and hide it". You also seem to be basing these assumptions on "the few gay people (you) know", as if they represent an accurate cross-section of all gays. Just to contrast that, the MANY openly gay people I know mostly live very normal lives/lifestyles, and vary widely in their age, ethnicity, socio-economic background, which makes me think they might be a more accurate cross-section than the few you know.

Just keep sticking your foot in your mouth. The more your post, the more homophobic you look.

Of course they vary in ages...they age just like the rest of us.

Anyways, I don't really give a flying fuck if you think I'm a homophobe or not. If it makes you feel good to ride on your high horse and say how open minded you are then more power to you. I know what I am and that is completely fine with me. It obviously makes you feel better about yourself and as long as you are happy and content with your personality then so am I.

Have a good fuckin' night, dude.

Can you point out to me where I said how open-minded I am? Cause all I remember writing about is how close-minded you are. And it's not I think you're a homophobe, it's that you demonstratably are a homophobe, regardless of whether you perceive yourself to be one.

[Donatello]

The major difference is you are comparing normal people to gay people

THAT was bad.

[Drex]

Riot, reading your posts, it seems to me like you think every gay guy goes around acting like a woman, and that's not the case. The fact that they like men doesn't mean they think or act as women, even if they're open minded about their sexual orentation or lifestyle, as you said.

[Dean]

Lol, is it just me or has this whole Axel business turned Riot into a whiney bitch?

[Ty-Land]

No, it's just presented an opportunity for him to display his whineyness, and consequently his very backward and prejudicial views of homosexual people.

I can't believe more people aren't outraged at what he (and others) have written in this thread and over the forum in the last few weeks. While some of it is intended to be 'funny', it doesn't mean it is right. If you substituted the gay slander to references to particular cultural or ethnic groups that existed in the forum, I'm sure people would be angry. But because Axel is the only gay member of the forum (that we are aware of at this stage) then most are happily overlooking the treatment he is receiving.

[benji]

very backward and prejudicial views

That's pretty backward and prejudiced to say.

[Riot]

Lol, is it just me or has this whole Axel business turned Riot into a whiney bitch?

I will continue to post my witty one liners as I think of them.

A small part on the War on Homosexuality?

That last part was a joke you silly gooses.

[Ty-Land]

very backward and prejudicial views

That's pretty backward and prejudiced to say.

Care to elaborate...

[Dean]

I can't believe more people aren't outraged at what he (and others) have written in this thread and over the forum in the last few weeks.

While im not outraged, i dont think its right. I agree with you completely on this though:

If you substituted the gay slander to references to particular cultural or ethnic groups that existed in the forum, I'm sure people would be angry

Riot, i just hope your smart enough to keep your opinion to yourself when you end up in the Navy. Because i have no doubt that there would be gay people in the Armed Forces, and i have no doubt that they wouldnt ignore your comments as Axel has been doing.

[TheMC5]

Of course they vary in ages...they age just like the rest of us.

Oh, also, way to completely miss the point. What I was getting at was that I've met many openly gay people of different backgrounds, and the majority of them do not conform to the stereotypical view of homosexuals. In fact, with most of them, I didn't even know until they or someone else told me. The other, albeit implied, point I was making was that since you stated you only know a few gay people, that there is less of a chance that you're seeing is an accurate cross section of homosexuals. That is not necessarily true, but it is more likely the less gay people you know.

[Abctest123]

For me personally, I need a real confidante, and someone who I can feel completely and totally comfortable around. Not necesarily a lover (although I really am hoping for that) but just someone who I can share my deepest secrets with. Preferably someone who I can hug, and cuddle with. Sex isn't a requirement.

That's pretty much the same kind of girl I would like (or in your case, your also including it as a normal friend), high-five Axel.

But because Axel is the only gay member of the forum (that we are aware of at this stage) then most are happily overlooking the treatment he is receiving.

I thought that thing about how he randomly had sex with a guy was a joke?

Also, lost in all this "argument" is this:

hi it's laker socks or better known as The_Game.

saw this thread and could not resist talking about a happy update in my life.

I proposed to my high school sweetheart yesterday and im happy to announce that we are now engaged.

I am leaving for Saudi Arabia to work as a nurse in the next few months and when i come back in 10 months, i am gonna ge married.

Now that's happiness.

Congratulations . I wish the best of luck to you.

[Drex]

While some of it is intended to be 'funny', it doesn't mean it is right.

But what exactly is the limit? We've made fun of everyone adn everything here. Now that there's one gay guy here, it means we should stop with the gay jokes?

[Axel]

Of course they vary in ages...they age just like the rest of us.

Oh, also, way to completely miss the point. What I was getting at was that I've met many openly gay people of different backgrounds, and the majority of them do not conform to the stereotypical view of homosexuals. In fact, with most of them, I didn't even know until they or someone else told me. The other, albeit implied, point I was making was that since you stated you only know a few gay people, that there is less of a chance that you're seeing is an accurate cross section of homosexuals. That is not necessarily true, but it is more likely the less gay people you know.

Thank you! This is so true, yet very few people realize it.

I'm really completely ordinary. I love sports in general, and perhaps my biggest hobby is helping my dad fix my car. I listen to almost all kinds of music, which ranges from hip hop to Britney's latest song (don't even deny it - I don't know anyone who doesn't like that song), and I like a wide range of movies from action to musicals. I would say that I dress pretty ordinary. I dress like a preppy college student.

I have several friends who I never would have expected were gay had they not openly told me. One of them I still can't believe is gay even though he is very open about it.

If you cannot see how a gay man and a straight man have different lifestyles then we obviously should just agree to disagree. The few gay people I know, atleast that are open about it, have completely different tastes in entertainment and dress than most straight people.

Hm. I'm sensing a connection here.