Porn Has Desensitized Me

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Porn Has Desensitized Me

Postby Nick on Wed Dec 06, 2006 4:07 pm

I'm gonna get a little open with you here, so if you're not ready for it, then you can leave.

But porn has desensitized my brain. We're all dudes here, right? Okay.. Is anyone else just OVER it? Same old routine. Showcase girl, headjob, blatant fucking, explosion. I've seen a fair amount of porn and it's gotten to the point where there's not even a reason for watching anymore. (warning..) It'd struggle to give me a boner unless i watch for atleast 5 minutes. They're just objects that are skin coloured now. But that's okay, i can live without porn.

Here's what's bothering me. I can't be 100% sure about this, but it feels like actually having a girl in the flesh with me isn't as good as it used to be. Is porn to blame? I think so. Another skin coloured object. I mean, it's great and all. Body contact, lovely curves, nice girl, etc. All that. But i almost feel like i've been there, done that, sorta thing, a lot more than i actually have. Simply because i've seen too many little porn vids over the years. I'm no porn fiend or anything, i might download 1 vid every 3 or 4 weeks for a thrill. But over time it all adds up.

I just don't get that raging interest and lust that i normally would. My last few recent experiences have been in the dark, in the early hours, after a night on the town.. so maybe that's to blame? But even still, i feel so numb with it all now.

I think i need a girlfriend, that i actually connect with in bed. Or maybe i'm just spinning bullshit that isn't even true.
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Postby Weiland on Wed Dec 06, 2006 4:32 pm

just give yourself time
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Postby J@3 on Wed Dec 06, 2006 4:56 pm

LMAO :lol:

Nick and I talk alot, my reaction is mostly a result of my prior knowledge.
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Postby Nick on Wed Dec 06, 2006 5:31 pm

:lol:
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Postby BigKaboom2 on Wed Dec 06, 2006 5:47 pm

Weiland wrote:just give yourself time


Oh my god that was so funny...I can barely breathe I'm laughing so hard.
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Postby Weiland on Wed Dec 06, 2006 7:33 pm

BigKaboom2 wrote:
Weiland wrote:just give yourself time


Oh my god that was so funny...I can barely breathe I'm laughing so hard.


That' just true hahahaha :D
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Postby PAMPERS on Wed Dec 06, 2006 11:48 pm

Welcome to the real world Johnny! Redundancy is a bore. Try something "else" for a change :lol:
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Postby Donatello on Thu Dec 07, 2006 1:47 am

Porn got boring for me to the point that it had to be 'weird' porn to excite me. Be it MILF-type stuff or what have you.

I can't say it's exactly crossed over into my -real- sex life though.

Making love is SO much better than sex, anyway.
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Postby cyanide on Thu Dec 07, 2006 4:12 am

Porn is destructive, really. I never believed it myself until I went through the experience of a relationship. With porn, usually the women are unrealistic: plastic surgery, excess makeup, scripted lines, and absolutely submissive, which also give a sense of "idealism" to the male viewer, which also raises his standards and expectations. Now the male goes out into the real world, expecting that what he sees in porn has to reflect his sexual life in a relationship. It doesn't work that way.

You're going to get into arguments in a relationship, you're going to wake up next to your woman who doesn't have makeup on, and you're going to have to love your significant other for who she is and how she looks. She won't give you sex on request, but at least you'll still get sex and more importantly, an intimate connection. She won't be the blonde bombshell or the Italian temptress that were in your fantasies, but she'll be the woman you would want to spend the rest of your life with because of who she is, and how she loves you back, and how she only wants to be with you.

Porn interferes with the psychological aspect of relationships, and to relationships itself, which is what makes it destructive. Nick, your situation is largely psychological and you're probably right about being desensitized. What might help is a relationship, and to change your way of thinking about sex and look at it more realistically, and yeah, cut out porn entirely. It should help, but if not, then maybe you might want to see a doctor?
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Postby PAMPERS on Thu Dec 07, 2006 4:28 am

Or maybe a kinky hooker? :D
I do agree about the moderator's post. If you are in the real world, porn somehow gives you the wrong sense of sex in reality, it blinds you to believe such egoistic sex can be achieved easy. It's like flexing a muscle when working out, the more you do it the stronger it will become and grow. As a result the urge for more "hardcore" than ever before is evident on your sexual preferences.
Trust me I have gone through your phase before, and even now that porn is that accessible as ever before from phones, Ipods, Tv media or the likes, I altogether toned it down.
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Postby [Q] on Thu Dec 07, 2006 6:46 am

well I can definitely say it's desensitised me in a way... when I was younger, I would get all bent out of shape if I saw a woman's breast but nowadays after so much porn it's almost like no big deal to me. and I agree with Donatello when you watch enough "regular" porn it gets boring. I have felt the urge to watch 'weird' porn, but I haven't really gotten into that stuff.
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Postby Riot on Thu Dec 07, 2006 6:52 am

Yeah the only shit that can get me off now is that beastiality crap. That ish is hot.
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Postby [Q] on Thu Dec 07, 2006 7:00 am

Riot, I never would've thought you watch porn... that statement has to be a lie.

you probably jack off to videos of the army and George Bush speeches... haha j/k j/k
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Postby Axel on Thu Dec 07, 2006 7:13 am

Well Nick, you could always try broadening your horizons.... :)
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Postby BIG GREEN on Thu Dec 07, 2006 8:05 am

Or he could try dating a woman in real life.
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Postby Indy on Thu Dec 07, 2006 8:11 am

Qballer wrote:Riot, I never would've thought you watch porn... that statement has to be a lie.

you probably jack off to videos of the army and George Bush speeches... haha j/k j/k


Riot probably talks about his fondness for porn more then anyone else here.

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Postby Lean on Thu Dec 07, 2006 8:35 am

Yes it's just the same thing when you watch porn over and over again. The girl gets undressed and all wet with saliva and cum. It's just the same thing, and yes the females are pretty submissive(they need to, they're getting paid for being fucked up).

What happens in porn will not happen in a serious relationship, unless both of you are hell as horny as those porn stars. You don't actually like your girl to fuck her up and then put your dick into her mouth?

Porn plays on the minds of the male viewers, to drive them and think that they could exploit their relationship with the girl to do those fancy stuff seen in porn.

Not that I hate porn, as I watch them too. But it's really monotonous. It's really different from love-making.
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Postby Nick on Thu Dec 07, 2006 2:02 pm

cyanide wrote:which also give a sense of "idealism" to the male viewer, which also raises his standards and expectations.

If there was ever a key sentance in the history of NLSC, i'm gonna claim that as it. Well, maybe slight exaduration. But i like it.

It makes me glad to know there are people like you in the world, Cyanide. SO many males expect perfection from women. Your attitude is very admirable. And i myself would like to think i go by the same morals. (I try).

But more than porn, i think men's magazines (such as FHM) are more blame and more destructive to male-female relationships than even porn. My media class did a study on it on last year and Cyanide pretty much hit the nail on the head with what he said about porn. It actually applies more so to the magazines. FHM and the such are the REAL killer, as it is the higher seller, and also generally more of an acceptable source of reading entertainment also. They are more known for it's promotion of low self esteem in women, with the attitude of "why don't i look like that". But i think there's more to it than that. People don't often think about how it affects males negatively aswell. It's the same as porn and as Cyanide mention with perfect wording above. Readers (most likely 95% male) don't even realise how these magazines such as FHM affect them either. But what they do is raise standards and expectations, aswell as objectifying women.

You NEVER see the common girl in these magazines. They're all perfectly slim, half naked, and more times than not - airbrushed. IF you ever see an overweight girl she's more than likely being made fun of. While there's a mild form of entertainment in reading about them, the fact is that the magazines are now a common media source in society and it is not a healthy thing for it's "attitude" towards women to be deemed acceptable.

Anyway, i was just genuinely astonished at Cyanide, who hit the nail on the absolute head. And i hope more people adopt that kind of attitude. It's just unrealistic not to.

Obviously my initial post was exadurated for reader's entertainment, and no i don't need help and save the patronising, lol. But it's true that porn has affected my attitude towards sex and such. Just the simple things as Qballer pointed out, not even caring about seeing b00bies!!!`~!~! lol. I can't say for sure if it's directly related to watching porn or not. Maybe it's maturing? Doubt that, lol. But it's unfortunate all the same and i think it's a good message to pass on that porn has side effects.

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Postby cyanide on Thu Dec 07, 2006 2:30 pm

Nick wrote:You NEVER see the common girl in these magazines. They're all perfectly slim, half naked, and more times than not - airbrushed.


Definitely airbrushed. Not to mention the makeup put on them by professional artists. Know those pictures where they expose celebrities without makeup? That's the real them who wakes up in the morning before they get a chance to head to the bathroom.

Thanks for pointing out the magazine factor too. I didn't realize how much of an impact FHM had made, since I don't read those magazines, but I remember how much my friends from high school used to take a keen interest in Maxim magazine. They definitely make women feel less about themselves, and make guys expect more, but neither of them will reach anything because it's all unattainable.

It's kinda ironic given that I was just watching America's Next Top Model, watching this one girl who wanted to kill herself before because she thought she was ugly and she just ended up winning the whole thing. It's always a good thing to know, when after watching the show, I look at my girlfriend and see how much more beautiful she is than anybody I've ever encountered.
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Postby Nick on Thu Dec 07, 2006 2:56 pm

cyanide wrote:I look at my girlfriend and see how much more beautiful she is than anybody I've ever encountered.

I never can understand statements like this though...
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Postby Laxation on Thu Dec 07, 2006 9:55 pm

Donatello wrote:Porn got boring for me to the point that it had to be 'weird' porn to excite me. Be it MILF-type stuff or what have you.

Ditto... generic, run-of-the-mill stuff doesnt do much for me...

thats not to say im gonna go watch midget-beastiality porn, its just that different stuff is needed these days

nick - you just need to find some stuff that excites you (maybe try midget-beastiality porn? :lol: )
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Postby cyanide on Fri Dec 08, 2006 1:01 am

Nick wrote:
cyanide wrote:I look at my girlfriend and see how much more beautiful she is than anybody I've ever encountered.

I never can understand statements like this though...


That's what happens when you're in love. Things like that develop over time.
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Postby Matt on Fri Dec 08, 2006 2:10 am

you mention FHM & Maxim, but theres also Cosmo, She, Vogue etc from the female perspective that do the same.
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Postby shadowgrin on Fri Dec 08, 2006 4:18 am

Matt wrote:theres also Cosmo, She, Vogue etc from the female perspective that do the same.

True, but those female magazines tackle things more female-centric as compared to their coverage regarding the opposite sex with such topics like "how to please your man", and knowing how vain most women are, "how to look beautiful" (or slutty).
(So I like to read random materials when bored. :oops: )

I'm not "lured" by magazines as before. When I see another issue, I quickly browse the materials/articles they put and find it repetitive from past ones before. The girls in the magazines are also not as "alluring" as before, more like a sense of what's/who's-going-to-be-next-is-there-nothing-new feeling.
All that basic porn stuff is now boring to me too. Weird thing is I still get turned on by soft porn but not the usual "blow-money shot" porn. :neutral:

cyanide wrote:I look at my girlfriend and see how much more beautiful she is than anybody I've ever encountered.

I appreciate the honest feeling straight from the heart, but that statement almost made me puke. :P

Oh and too Nick, maybe you should try that tantric sex shite. Try the whole process until you and your partner explode.
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Postby joejam999 on Fri Dec 08, 2006 5:12 am

This thread will go down in history as the thread that brought everyone of the NLSC together. :lol: Maybe you could try watching "love making porn" or even homemade porn. Maybe that wont screw with your mind as much.
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