Missed Opportunities

[Fenix]

[Mind trick]You guys will help at doing an essay[/mind trick]. Seriously, I know we are all young and all that, but you definitely had things in your life that you always wanted to do (to ask a certain girl if she wants to go on a date with you, etc.) until finally it was too late and you missed all your chances. What were they and why are they missed?

[J@3]

#1 for me would be that I didn't discover my metrosexual side until I was almost finished with high school I grew up in a small country town so everyone else was the same, but I would've prefered to be like this back then.

#2 would be anything basketball related... I constantly regret things I did/didn't do during games. I also regret not taking it more seriously and putting more into it, because now that I don't have anywhere to play I'm desperate to do so.

#3 is not staying in the UK. I prefered it there, but let too many small things piss me off and we ended up back in Australia.

#4 not convincing my best friend to move down here when I had the chance. He's into all sorts of drugs and shit now so it's almost a lost cause.

#5 would be feeling the need to reply to this thread

#6 not going after girls more aggressively (bad word) than I should've when I was younger... I didn't really care who was or wasn't into me, even if I knew they were I just kinda ignored it and waited for them to do something. Could've had alot more fun that way.

#7 reading that this is all a scam to help VanK pass an essay yet still submitting the post regardless.

There's more but they come under the "Not wanting to tell random people on the internet that I don't even know" category.

[Drex]

Not having enough fun. I mean, I stayed in the house every weekend, I didn't do anything, just sit in the computer and try to do something fun.

Not being me. I used to be a really fun guy, I talked to everybody, laughed and things like that. But when my girlfriend went to Germany I started to just listen music and do nothing else. Now I feel almost alone, because I didn't talk too much with my friends.

Many missed oppotunities with girls

[Jing]

missed opportunities...

1. not doing more hs sports, espically not doing cross country and ultimate frisbee earlier
2. not asking out this girl i've been with for like 3 years to the prom...
3. not being more social/not growing taller..

it can go on... these are just some off the top of my head.

[j.23]

1. put in a little more effort in school so i could be at a beter school right now
2. not telling the girl then that i loved her. things would be completely different right now

[Fitzy]

1. Not stretching properly on country week and i got injured and missed like 3 games
2. Not telling my ex the reason i didnt talk to her one day at school, she dumped me after that

[Nick]

Cool thread idea. Even if it is for your own personal benefit.

Umm lets see.
- I guess i took high school for granted a bit. I didn't realise until i got out, but i had so many friends that i didn't truly "know". I often just stuck with the people i was close to and comfortable with. I regret not branching out of my comfort zone and making better relationships with other people. Cos when you get out of high school you realise that friends are so important.

- I regret spooning with Jae. My arse hurts.

- I regret not making the most out of the women (that sounds a bit wrong lol) at the parties from high school. I was getting the attention and interest from some, but i was too lazy to follow it up. I just waited for them to come to me so to speak, but that never works believe it or not.

- I regret not thinking of a plan for 2006. This year is sucking. Shit job, dunno what my future holds. I wake up every morning not knowing what i'm gonna do. Tomorrow i don't know what i'm gonna do. I usually just turn the computer on. Spend too many hours in front of a screen. Lose valuable sleep hours. Then when the weekend hits and i get to see everyone and have a good time, i'm ALREADY tired and i'm not as much fun as i should be.

- I regret not working hard enough with music. I could be great, but i'm not because i spend too many hours in front of a screen and i'm too lazy.

- One thing i don't regret is how half-arsed i took year 12. I got a just below average score. And if i did it again i'd probably do it the exact same way. It was a good year.

- I pretty much regret sitting here in front of a screen posting how i regret things when i could be doing something about them instead of sitting in front of a screen.

[shadowgrin]

when my girlfriend went to Germany I started to just listen music and do nothing else. Now I feel almost alone, because I didn't talk too much with my friends.

Emo Drex?

3. not being more social/not growing taller..

Let it go, it's not your fault. There's nothing you can do about it.

I regret not working hard enough with music.I could be great, but i'm not

Reminds me of that Marlon Brando movie quote:

I could have had class. I could have been a contender. I could have been somebody, instead of a bum--which is what I am.

Mine:
Same with Jae and Nick, not following up when a girl takes interest in
me. Mostly missed opportunities when girls flirt with me. I'm a slow guy when it comes to knowing the subtle signs, even the not so subtle ones. Examples:
- some woman staring at me and showing me some tongue exercises with a piece of candy (not lollipop, so I definitely saw the open mouth tongue movement). The whole time I was watching her I was trying to figure out what brand of candy she was enjoying. I only realized what she really wanted when I bought candy during the day.
- a female passenger practically mashing her boobs into me in a not-so-full train carriage. I thought she was just prone to losing her balance, even when the train isn't moving (station stops).
- a girl asking me to come to her house because there was no one there to accompany her. I refused because of the traffic and the long trip. Again I failed to realize the real deal, too late.
- a girl that used to always sit on my lap and hug me, we barely knew each other because it was the beginning of the semester. I thought she was just cold and had no bench to sit on, and I'm such a nice guy . The school season here coincides with the rainy season thus it's cold and wet outside.
There's some more but it just saddens me when I try to remember those lost booty.

I decided a long time ago in my long sleepless reflection periods (no, I wasn't high) that I should never have the burden of regrets and always move on with my life, and just let it go.
I regret nothing! *hits an oncoming truck*

Things I really used to regret:
- Not taking my studies seriously. Slept through HS but still managed to be accepted in one of the top univ. in the country. Slept and slacked through it too so I got booted off, go figure.
- Taking a long break (5 years) from studying after being booted off. I didn't feel like studying then, hence the vast amount of time for my reflection periods.
- Not getting enough work experience. Having that would be a blast.
- Lost booty.

(Why do I have the feeling most of the regrets that are going to be posted will have something to do with females?)

[The X]

#6 from Jae's list would be the main one....there are always opportunities when you're younger (listen to me Jugs, your time is coming, you just probably won't recognise it until it's too late), but I cared more about basketball, NBA Live '98, '99 etc, alcohol, partying etc than girls....girls were too much effort I guess....if I knew what I knew now, who knows what I'd be doing now....also I stopped playing sports during uni & drank ridiculous amounts & smoked my fair share of wacky which all added up to me putting on 30+kg's in the space of a few years....

all that being said, I wouldn't change anything as I believe things happen for a reason....each decision I made was the right decision at the right time....it made me who I am today....

okay one more....a biggie....I let a girl I was really into slip out of my fingers because I was too nice & honorable & too slow to make a move....I always thought I wouldn't go for a girl who already had a boyfriend, but little did I know that it was already essentially over....too honorable I tell you....but I guess that's just me....arggh....

[cyanide]

#2 would be anything basketball related... I constantly regret things I did/didn't do during games. I also regret not taking it more seriously and putting more into it, because now that I don't have anywhere to play I'm desperate to do so.

There were so many new concepts, tricks, and motivational tools that I learned after I finished playing organized ball that I wished I knew and utilized before. I'll be able to use it when I play future community league games... hopefully.

#6 not going after girls more aggressively (bad word) than I should've when I was younger... I didn't really care who was or wasn't into me, even if I knew they were I just kinda ignored it and waited for them to do something. Could've had alot more fun that way.

I did have that regret before, but ending up with someone in the end erases that regret. I could've had more experience, but having more experience could also lead to regret (traumatizing someone, getting traumatized, getting an STD, adapting a destructive lifestyle, etc)

I think it's important not to dwell on regrets but move on and make the best of one's current abilities.

[scrub]

Not playing football (soccer) more when I was younger. I amazing at like 7 years old but I quit and only started playing for my local team again when I was 14. I could've been a much better player.

[Drex]

Emo Drex?

Screw you, man! *cuts self & cries*

[Srbija]

Well, I don't remember that many seeing as I'm still young (14), but, one that I do remember is that in Year 5 (Grade for all you Americans) there was this hot chick which, obviously, I liked and I didn't manage to tell her because I felt I would get fucked off. Anyway, this year, I meet that chick again at Ice Skating (believe it or not, it's a great place to get chicks) and I found out that she used to like me aswell back in Year 5.

So yeah, we hooked up that night and I don't regret it anymore.

[Dean]

Girls for sure.

Edit: *hi-fives Srbija*

[[Q]]

1. Not being myself in HS.
2. Not trying out for the HS bball team.

[Axel]

I have a lot of regrets... perhaps my biggest one was uncontrolable. Growing up in the middle of nowhere imo is the biggest one of all. Sometimes I feel like I've just wasted 17 years of my life in a place where I dont fit. As strange as it sounds, I still feel like an outsider when I visit any place that has a mall. I also think living where I do has made me not intolerant of other races/religions/cultures, but definetly made me feel akward when around them. For instance (dont laugh, really) I have never in my entire life had a conversation with anyone that isnt caucasian (except for the mexicans at one of the mexican restaurants here).. nope, no blacks, asians, etc...

Another regret of mine is allowing my parents's beliefs affect my personal interests. Really, this only pertains to basketball and a few other sports, but I always allowed my dad to tell me at a young age that it was just a stupid sport... no point to it. Never watched a game until I was in the 9th grade. Loved it. Too bad I missed out the chance of ever playing it on a team in my entire life, because rec league only goes up to middle school here, and a novice like me could never make a tryout.

Another was being too closed minded. I when I was younger I always told myself that if people werent intelligent, or didnt try hard in school that they werent worth my time. Now I realize that I've cut myself off from a lot of people, and made a lot of enemies with people who I probably share a lot of interests with... even if education isnt one of them. Problem is my school has just under 500 students (and its the largest in the county) so that really limits my choice of friends....

[emo]Wow, I guess I'd redo my entire life. I'm definetly moving away from here and starting over when I get older. Maybe I'll deal drugs or something to actually get out and experience something in life. God I hate being me [/emo]

[PiksS]

*to go to Germany ( for free ) last year and play there basketball withe big fellas for a year, but mine chose was to stay here in Latvia and learn!

*start practicing in basketball few years faster....!

*learn a lot more from the 5th till 8th grade....

*and if i only have gone to all the practices, last year and before....!

[shadowgrin]

Wow, I guess I'd redo my entire life. I'm definetly moving away from here and starting over when I get older. Maybe I'll deal drugs or something to actually get out and experience something in life. God I hate being me

Wow, I can sense too much self-loathing in your post.
I wouldn't be surprised if you grow up to be a person that's angry and cynical most of the time, or you could turn into a Pavel.
Don't latch on to the hate man, let it go. What if your past sucks by your standards, you still have the present to do something about it, and the future to look forward to.

[dada]

1- Wish I gave more respect to women once they I lost interest in them.

I speak to a few of my ex-girlfriends every now and then on the phone and whenever I think back to the past I always feel like they deserved a little more from me. Its kinda wierd why they still talk to me though, theres this one especially who is getting married and I think she is only doing it because I did (I guess to show she got over me somehow). Besides from the not calling I guess I wasnt that bad.

Thats all for now.

[Fenix]

- Taking a long break (5 years) from studying after being booted off. I didn't feel like studying then, hence the vast amount of time for my reflection periods.

How old exactly are you?

Thanks to everybody, I really appreciate it. It's not an essay anymore, it's a short story, something I use to hone my writing skills. The general idea was to write about a missed opportunity, about a segment from your everyday life, which would show us the nature of people, the cowardness and laziness we all posses and really limits us at achieving our full potential or having a better life. The concept of the story is something like this: boy goes to school everyday with a train and everytime she sees this girl he really likes. They never really talk, they just flirt from afar and then comes the day boy's uncle dies. But there's another funeral before that - is that of a girl he liked. If anyone has an idea to improve the plot, be my guest.

Things I regret:
-that I stopped swimming (as a sport) in my middle school.
-that I wasn't more social.
-that I didn't go out with the girls I liked.
-that I didn't travel more.
-that I lied a lot until HS.
-that I smoked pubic hair.
-that I left my job at the local radio.
-that I wasn't more into computers (programming).

[3P]

I regret not finding this site sooner.

[J@3]

I regret that you found it at all.

Fenix that's a pretty awesome idea for a story

[Its_asdf]

I don't really have any major regrets, maybe I'll think to myself "Oh shit, why didn't I do that earlier or sooner", but I wouldn't care afterwards. I guess it's probably because nothing really impactful has really hit me yet.

Then again, maybe I just have a terrible memory and always forget everything.

[shadowgrin]

How old exactly are you?

20 something or mid-20's.
I was 16 when I first entered college.
Why the interest in my exact age Fenix?
(I really shouldn't have removed Fenix from my insult hit list - add that as another regret )

that I smoked pubic hair.

WTF? I hope that's a typo or a figurative expression.

that I wasn't more social
that I lied a lot until HS

That explains your weak game with the ladies.
*Fenix is wide open for an insult, but the chance is lost*
*bangs head on the keyboard for taking Fenix off the list*

that I left my job at the local radio

Question: Is there an all rap radio station in Slovenia?

What I like about your story idea is that it offers many opportunities for it's concept to branch out, creating more interesting options for plot development. I really don't have a concrete plot or idea to offer, but I just feel that your story has that flexibility to it, making it easier for you to write what you want.
Write what you feel Fenix, ignore the typos, grammar, punctuation errors and whatnot. Just concentrate on expressing that story in your head on your first draft. The story you want will start to fully develop every time you review your draft for the errors you made before.

Wait, I do have a concrete idea to improve your plot:
Don't let your story have the resemblance of a CoolMac story.

[Fenix]

Why the interest in my exact age Fenix?

I always thought you were 17, 18 or something like that. You know, that you haven't really left your adoloscent years yet and that hormones are still dictating what you write here. Obviously, the reasons for that lie much, much deeper .

Question: Is there an all rap radio station in Slovenia?

If that's an insult, I completely missed its meaning. But if it's an actual question - yes, there probably is.