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by **Jona** on Sat Sep 17, 2005 10:13 am

Thanks man, I'll sure get my hands into it. (Y)

by **killer_cr0ss0ver** on Sat Sep 17, 2005 11:06 am

dear doctor jona,

why am i so adictive to nba live even though it sucks?

sincerely yours,

killer_cr0ss0ver

by **Doobie** on Sat Sep 17, 2005 1:54 pm

This has to do with a physical problem but I'm not making a thread about it , maybe you guys can help here. Anyways I jammed my finger playing basketball around August Last year(2004) and I jammed it again in January (2005) . Well its been about a 9 months since I jammed and it , and its still swollen and I can't crack my knuckle. My finger is still hurting as well. I am wondering if theres any chance I broke it or dislocated it in anyway? Or is something else wrong?

by **J@3** on Sat Sep 17, 2005 1:59 pm

Sounds dislocated. If you don't pop it back into place straight away it's going to stay painful and look swollen. I dislocated my finger about a year ago, I put it back into place but it healed a bit strangely so it's kinda bent and I can't straighten it out properly but the pain's entirely gone. The pain you describe sounds like a dislocation. I think you should get it x-rayed.

by **Doobie** on Sat Sep 17, 2005 2:19 pm

Thanks Jae , I will get it checked as soon as possible . And yea , my finger does look bent out of shape , looks weird and it hurts .

by **Jona** on Sat Sep 17, 2005 2:50 pm

killer_cr0ss0ver wrote:dear doctor jona,

why am i so adictive to nba live even though it sucks?

How old are you? A "gaming addiction" is pretty common in the early teens, but the problem here is that you say the game sucks. Maybe you don't really think it sucks, or else you wouldn't be playing it.

Doobie wrote:This has to do with a physical problem but I'm not making a thread about it , maybe you guys can help here. Anyways I jammed my finger playing basketball around August Last year(2004) and I jammed it again in January (2005) . Well its been about a 9 months since I jammed and it , and its still swollen and I can't crack my knuckle. My finger is still hurting as well. I am wondering if theres any chance I broke it or dislocated it in anyway? Or is something else wrong?

If you get persistent pain for more than a week, you should get it checked, but it's a little too late for that advice.

As Jae said, if the finger is bent or crooked you most probably dislocated the bones in that joint. Go get it x-rayed as soon as possible, or else the bones may settle in the same position you dislocated them, and you DO NOT want that. (Y)

by **Fresh8** on Sat Sep 17, 2005 3:49 pm

Dr Jona... heres one for u. (I hope it challanges you Dr.)

Well, I don't understand why I am perceived as arrogant/egotistcial. I asked my friend the other day about what he thought of me... he said that I am overconfident and sometimes, I am so overconfident, that it becomes cocky. My other friend said that once we talk, its all good. I am a nice guy. But before, she, like many others... thought I was a dickhead and had a huge ego problem. Many tell me not to think or car ewhat others think of me. Sometimes I wonder whether I should try and change myself... but then people always respond to that: You will just be fake and noone will know the real you.

So as a shrink, tell me why you think people may think I'm egotistical... and if/how I should change?

by **cyanide** on Sun Sep 18, 2005 5:07 am

Simple: Start thinking more about other people than about yourself. It doesn't change your personality, but maybe you could start thinking about the things you say, how you dress, how you act, that makes you appear cocky or egotistical, and be aware of it. You might want to ask your friends what makes you appear egotistical.

by **Jona** on Sun Sep 18, 2005 5:49 am

Sit wrote:Well, I don't understand why I am perceived as arrogant/egotistcial. I asked my friend the other day about what he thought of me... he said that I am overconfident and sometimes, I am so overconfident, that it becomes cocky. My other friend said that once we talk, its all good. I am a nice guy. But before, she, like many others... thought I was a dickhead and had a huge ego problem. Many tell me not to think or car ewhat others think of me. Sometimes I wonder whether I should try and change myself... but then people always respond to that: You will just be fake and noone will know the real you.

Being confident and comfortable with yourself is an excellent mindset as you pass through life, but when it is presented in excess, as all things, it turns into an obstacle. As you put it, you at times have such a boosted ego, it becomes arrogant.
You need to find a balance in the level of importance you give to other people and to yourself in order to please them or please you. Do not give an absolute damn about what other people think or say about, since you would be dealing with a conflict of complete indifference to other people's opinion, and that would make your problem worst. On the other hand, you cannot be absolutely guided and biased by another's opinion about you or your ways, as your self-esteem would probably take a major blow, at least on a subconscious level.
Try to maintain an equilibrium for those two aspects, and you should get a difference. As Cy said, by all means talk to your friends, and maintain a good communication with the people you care about, to get their judgement and different perspectives to your troubles. (Y)

by **Mentally Hilarious** on Sun Sep 18, 2005 5:58 am

I dislike people because I find them generic and boring. Somehow this seems to make me "hostile" towards people that I believe are below me.

Yes I'm an elitist asshole, but I cannot stand a conversation that potentially could have the exchange:

Me: "What music do you like?"
Other person: "You know... everything from rap to rock"

Should I change my ways, or am I indeed right in the fact that people are stupid fuckers?

by **Jona** on Sun Sep 18, 2005 7:25 am

Hab wrote:I dislike people because I find them generic and boring. Somehow this seems to make me "hostile" towards people that I believe are below me.

Yes I'm an elitist asshole, but I cannot stand a conversation that potentially could have the exchange:

Me: "What music do you like?"
Other person: "You know... everything from rap to rock"

Should I change my ways, or am I indeed right in the fact that people are stupid fuckers?

While it is completely normal for a man with higher intelectual capablity (supposedly yourself, in this case) to be bored with the "meaningless" chatter of another, less capable man, you should not act in a hostile way towards them, but I recommend practicing tolerance and respect.
You should not change the way you are, it is indeed very difficult, some say impossible, but a least you should listen to what the other person has to say, if the conversation is inevitable.
Try to bring out interesting topics, or something that makes you comfortable, but the last thing you should do is to get maddened or demote them. (Y)

by **Fresh8** on Sun Sep 18, 2005 12:50 pm

Thanks Jona.

Well, one example is my basketball team. Most of the guys on the team hate me because they say I hard at training and they feel they deserve more playing time than I do. I start at SG, but coach asks me to bring the ball up and stuff... and the other guards aren't happy. Some guys think I hold onto the ball too much or try to be too fancy. But I got over that notion of hate... and then when I told the team I was gonna lead us to the premiership they all turned their backs on me and started passing the ball to me less...

So what should I do? Coach respects and trusts me but my teammates don't... and being the smallest guy o nthe team doesn't help much... Do you think it's cause of how I act? Or could they be not respecting me cause I'm a poor kid who goes to a private school... i wear runners and not fancy bball shoes...

by **Drex** on Sun Sep 18, 2005 12:55 pm

You are cocky and arrogant 'cause you watch too much Kobe :crazy:

by **The X** on Sun Sep 18, 2005 4:20 pm

Sit, when I played for the senior team in Grade 11, we had a small Asian PG who started for our team....he's dribbled too much, looked for his own shot and didn't make anyone else better....essentially he was an Asian Stephon Marbury....no one else on the team had any fun....in Grade 12, with the Asian guy now graduated, we played as a team, won a title, and all had a lot of fun....

not saying you're like this guy, but this is just an experience that I had....if you are to bring the ball up, do you immediately dish the ball off to someone else and cut or dribble and create?!? and you shouldn't really say to the rest of the team that you'll lead them to the permiership....that does such very cocky, and sounds like you will take it upon yourself and do it yourself....like you don't need the rest of the team....that's probably not what you meant, but that is the way they have likely taken it....play hard, play team basketball, play D etc and hopefully they'll turn....and I think you'll have more fun if you make these less talented players better....the runners thing shouldn't really be an issue in it....

by **Jona** on Sun Sep 18, 2005 6:02 pm

Sit wrote:Well, one example is my basketball team. Most of the guys on the team hate me because they say I hard at training and they feel they deserve more playing time than I do. I start at SG, but coach asks me to bring the ball up and stuff... and the other guards aren't happy. Some guys think I hold onto the ball too much or try to be too fancy. But I got over that notion of hate... and then when I told the team I was gonna lead us to the premiership they all turned their backs on me and started passing the ball to me less...

So what should I do? Coach respects and trusts me but my teammates don't... and being the smallest guy o nthe team doesn't help much... Do you think it's cause of how I act? Or could they be not respecting me cause I'm a poor kid who goes to a private school... i wear runners and not fancy bball shoes...

Of course this situation presents itself because how you act. Telling the team "I'm leading us to the championship" is kind of an arrogant thing to say out loud, even though it is completely true. Maybe being more humble as you communicate your enthusiasm to the team would help.
As good as you are, you should not give yourself more importance than the team. Try dishing it to the "not-so-good" guys, and using your talent to creat game, as X said.
Hope it helps! (Y)

by **J@3** on Sun Sep 18, 2005 7:06 pm

and then when I told the team I was gonna lead us to the premiership they all turned their backs on me and started passing the ball to me less...

I can't believe you said that.

by **Fresh8** on Sun Sep 18, 2005 7:24 pm

hehe, Jae... knew u'd pop up somewhere.

I thought I would tell them. We lost our first game by 2 points. I foulled out with 2 minutes left after scored on a three point play and a trey to get us back within the other team. Then I had to come off and noone would take the last shot; so I felt bad that we didn't win and it was sorta my fault cause i played crap. That loss has us coming in second place so I decided if anyones gonna step up for the rest of the season, I gotta make it clear. I was arrogant and waht I said makes it mroe arrogant of me... so I guess I gotta let my game speak for itself and not wear my Kobe jersey to training lol

The game when I told everyone was the one where we won by 40... when the opposing team double teamed me, the other guys gave me the ball so I could turn it over a few times so coach would take me off... So I guess I did get my just deserts lol

Thanks for the advice Jona, X!

(BTW X, the whole team is asian cept my two friends... they only speak asian, only me and my two friends speak english... and my friends arent the better guys on the team)

by **Jona** on Mon Sep 19, 2005 4:11 am

Sit wrote:Thanks for the advice Jona, X!

That's exactly what this thread is for, I'm glad it helped. (Y)

by **COOLmac©** on Mon Sep 19, 2005 11:04 am

here's a new delima i just knew recently. i am an angry driver. everytime some idiot pass on me i want to ram the back of his car/truck/bus/tricycle. i am so pissed when people cut on my ride during traffics. i blow the horn countless times. i'm so sick of having those PUV's park on the wrong side of the road to grab em passengers :twisted:

i dont know if i have the case of road rage? cause as soon as i left the car i'm a changed man :wink:

by **Jona** on Mon Sep 19, 2005 11:50 am

I think that if you find your driving a possible "case of road rage", you should evaluate the things you're doing wrong.
An angry (read: unfocused) driver increases the chances of accidents a fair amount, so next time you go on a drive, think twice about your actions. :wink:

by **killer_cr0ss0ver** on Mon Sep 19, 2005 12:41 pm

How old are you? A "gaming addiction" is pretty common in the early teens, but the problem here is that you say the game sucks. Maybe you don't really think it sucks, or else you wouldn't be playing it.

im still a teener. im just twenTEEn one. turning tweTEEN two.. see.... :mrgreen:

maybe i have no choice. im playing live on pc. there are no other basketball games on pc. and i love basketball...

by **Drex** on Mon Sep 19, 2005 12:46 pm

Maybe you should try playing REAL basketball (Y)

by **killer_cr0ss0ver** on Mon Sep 19, 2005 1:06 pm

when i was still in hs and college i play alot. but now im working i have little time to play real ball. i get tired quickly nowadays. b4 i have 6pack but now i only have one :mrgreen:

by **COOLmac©** on Mon Sep 19, 2005 1:11 pm

good for you. same as me. i used to have abs now it looks like i have an "ab"
living in the philippines will make you stressful. the politics, the economy and the mad people. thanks we have dr. jona to vent our phsycodhelics 8-)

by **Jona** on Mon Sep 19, 2005 2:15 pm

killer_cr0ss0ver wrote:maybe i have no choice. im playing live on pc. there are no other basketball games on pc. and i love basketball...

Well then, then you'll just have to wait until October for 06 to come out! 8-)

Cmac wrote:living in the philippines will make you stressful. the politics, the economy and the mad people.

That sounds an awful lot like Santiago, or New York or any major European city.
Get used to it, it's the modern world.

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