Bad News

by **Theory** on Tue Aug 30, 2005 1:48 am

My partners step dad was in a fatal motorcycle accident on Saturday. He leaves behind a 14 year old son and three step daughters. He was such a decent bloke, the kind of guy who would do anything for you and never want anything in return, he never said a bad word to anybody and was absolutely loved by everyone. He was a mechanic by trade but could do almost any job, a genuine jack-of-all-trades, he was a veritable Swiss army knife of a human being and I really admired that about him. He showed me so much kindness that I never got the chance to repay any of it. His son has always been like a little brother to me, I’m so heartbroken for him, he lost his grandmother earlier in the year and it’s his birthday on Wednesday and there’s absolutely nothing I can say to make things easier for him. He’s trying to be brave for his mum but I know he’s distraught inside, he looked up to his dad a lot, and they had a very strong relationship. He keeps telling me that he can’t believe it’s happened and that all his mates feel really sorry for him, all I can do is rub his back and look at the floor because I’m so speechless, I just don’t know what to say.

I know all the posters here are as good as strangers to me but I just had to try and get some of this weekend off my chest. My partners mum is inconsolable; she says she’s lost her soul mate, what the hell can you say to that. The doctor came around last night and gave half the family valium, I had some kind of panic attack and starting hyper ventilating and I just can’t explain it, for no reason what so ever I just couldn’t breath. I’m trying to keep myself together and be strong for everyone but its so hard, sad times.

Thanks for listening guys, I really appreciate it.

by **cklitsie** on Tue Aug 30, 2005 2:03 am

though i find it very weird that you post this kind of stuff here, im sorry to hear it, good luck

by **Null17** on Tue Aug 30, 2005 2:07 am

sad to hear. what do you mean by your partner?

by **Jona** on Tue Aug 30, 2005 2:18 am

If you hyperventilated I can only imagine the sadness and anxiety you were feeling.

Indeed very bad news, just let time pass. I would REALLY recommend counseling for the direct family, maybe you could be a part of that, too.

Hope it all works out well, best of luck. (Y)

by **Bang** on Tue Aug 30, 2005 2:29 am

Good luck.

by **cyanide** on Tue Aug 30, 2005 2:42 am

I'm so sorry to hear that

My condolences go out to your partner's family.

That just increased my dislike for motorcycles even more.

by **AlwaysWhat,NeverWhy** on Tue Aug 30, 2005 4:46 am

This is not something easily analyzed in written form... Just be true to your emotions and even if it seems the safe and easy way to go, do not over-sweeten the pill for those involved... Death and its effects can only be overcome and defeated when they are accepted...

by **cyanide** on Tue Aug 30, 2005 4:56 am

Nietzschean Pride wrote: Death and its effects can only be overcome and defeated when they are accepted...

Well said. But very difficult to accept, though.

by **AlwaysWhat,NeverWhy** on Tue Aug 30, 2005 4:57 am

Well said. But very difficult to accept, though.

Indeed.

But acceptance is the prerequisite for moving on in life.

by **Hotshot** on Tue Aug 30, 2005 4:59 am

Really sad to hear that man..
A couple of days back, one of my friends lost his brother in a motorbike accident. He was trying to pass a bus when one of the tyres got punctured.. he lost control and got run over by another bus coming from behind. The worst part is knowing that it wasn't any of his fault at all. It was on the papers and everything. My buddy's holding up pretty ok but it was really depressing to see him go through all that.

by **Emiliano** on Tue Aug 30, 2005 5:09 am

Sad times...my condolences to the family as well. Very tough to go through that

Hope everything works out for you and the family. Good luck...

by **Doobie** on Tue Aug 30, 2005 5:30 am

My condolences as well to the family of your partner . My older brother nearly passed away because of a motorcycle accident . He was in a comma for about 2 months . Thank god he's ok , but he still is out riding . I guess he hasn't learn the first time . I'm sorry to hear this man.

by **Steve [The Spiderman]** on Tue Aug 30, 2005 5:46 am

That's too bad...time is what you will all need. I'm not so sure about getting a motorcycle anymore though. I just had a family friend die due to a motorcycle accident as well...

by **Riot** on Tue Aug 30, 2005 5:55 am

When I read the title of the thread I thought it was going to be about Hurricane Katrina but now I see it's about you and your dead grandpa. You selfish, selfish bastard.

by **Cable** on Tue Aug 30, 2005 6:00 am

Riot wrote:When I read the title of the thread I thought it was going to be about Hurricane Katrina but now I see it's about you and your dead grandpa. You selfish, selfish bastard.

You selfish, selfish bastard.

How could you Riot? Can't you post something nice?

Theory: Really sorry to hear that. Hope you can pull through without too much trouble.

by **Riot** on Tue Aug 30, 2005 6:09 am

I've posted nice things before.

by **Jona** on Tue Aug 30, 2005 6:28 am

What was the point of posting that man?
I mean, if you have nothing to contribute except your annoying attention seeking jokes, you shouldn't post at all.

What an asshole. :roll:

by **Riot** on Tue Aug 30, 2005 6:44 am

Are you talking to me? Because my post was completely on topic and completely relevant.

by **Jackal_** on Tue Aug 30, 2005 6:56 am

My condolences man, keep your head up dude (Y)

by **Jona** on Tue Aug 30, 2005 6:59 am

Riot wrote:Are you talking to me? Because my post was completely on topic and completely relevant.

Of course I'm talking to you.
Calling Theory a selfish bastard, what a relevant and on-topic post you've made Riot, congratulations. :roll:

by **WL_Sniper** on Tue Aug 30, 2005 7:40 am

Sorry to hear that man. i just hope u get through it alright

by **Riot** on Tue Aug 30, 2005 8:43 am

Jona wrote:
Riot wrote:Are you talking to me? Because my post was completely on topic and completely relevant.

Of course I'm talking to you.
Calling Theory a selfish bastard, what a relevant and on-topic post you've made Riot, congratulations.

It was more a joke, but ok. Thanks for the comment on the post, I'll remember to do it more often.

by **Jackal** on Tue Aug 30, 2005 9:09 am

Condolences to you & your family. That must suck. (Duh.)

I wouldn't post something like that on a forum though.

by **kibaxx7** on Tue Aug 30, 2005 9:22 am

My condolences also. Good luck in everything.

by **Riot** on Tue Aug 30, 2005 9:44 am

Thierry Henry wrote:Good luck in everything.

What if he wants to murder millions of people by building his own nuclear warhead? You would be partly at fault because you wished him luck in everything.

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