I've made a huge mistake.

[Doobie]

So I'll get to the point. Friday night I hooked up with one of my closest friends girlfriends. We were drinking yet we were both fully aware of what was happening. No one saw, it was at a get together at her house and I asked her to show me where the bathroom was, we ended up making out near the bathroom for a few minutes, and yes her boyfriend was in the house. Me and her never got along but for some reason that night we spent the whole night talking and it ended up leading to that. The kids been my friend for about 8 years now, and I see him basically everyday of my life, he's been with the girl for 3 years now...

Question. Me and her haven't spoken about it since, but I feel guilty as shit and I'm afraid to bring it up. Do I talk to her about it, do I tell my friend, do I make believe nothing happened since chances are we both don't want to get caught? What would you guys do?

PS: Bad karma hit me last night, the girl I was currently hopeful to start a relationship with, ended up hooking up with another one of my friends last night, in my face. We've been talkin for 2-3 months now and been getting a lot closer, then BAM out of nowhere that happened. I guess I can't be mad since I did something worse, but whatever.

[Lean]

All could be just a coincidence though. I don't really see that "karma" has something to do with this.

You can live with it as if nothing happened between you and the girl you banged but if I was in your place I would apologize to the girl and to her boyfriend. Don't mind what would they say in return so long as you apologize.

[Andrew]

Tough call, Doobie. Honesty is usually the best policy and it strikes me as one of those things that will come out sooner or later, with the shit hitting the fan no matter what. It's probably better if he hears it from you than from her, but there are going to be consequences no matter what. I'm sure you're aware of the situation you'd be creating by coming clean about it but from your post I'm not sure that covering it up is going to ease your guilt.

Have you spoken to her about it?

[Doobie]

She has kept the conversations casual since then. Just the general hi-bye and how are you's.

[Andrew]

Fair enough. Not that I really want to advocate dishonesty in a situation like this, but is she likely to say anything about it? And if she's not going to bring it up and life goes on as normal, do you think your guilt will fade over time? And finally, who is your friend likely to be angrier at?

[Doobie]

Like I said I've never gotten along with her, shes a bitch. First time I drank with her was that night, guess liquor makes her nice. I doubt she'd mention it to be honest. My guilt will fade because I'm pretty sure there relationship won't last, I mean my friend is 21 and the girl is 19, I doubt they spend the rest of there lives together. The friend will probably be more mad at me, hes the kind of guy who puts his girlfriend above all else.

I'm nervous that if I am honest, she will make up a bullshit story that I pressed on her or something like that, which isn't true.

[JaoSming]

take the karma hit you already got and just clam up about it. she fucked up too and since you and her dont get along you can deny it.

but shame doobie, shame

[NovU]

No matter how you tell your friend, he's gonna be fucking upset. If I were you, I'd act like nothing ever happened and hope for the best.

[shadowgrin]

I concur with Jao. STFU about it. If your friend finds out, 'fess up the whole thing that happened.

For shame Doobie.

[J@3]

I agree with shadowgrin's "for shame".

That being said, talk to her first. Find out what she wants to do. If she is feeling no guilt about it and doesn't want to say anything then maybe staying quiet would be the best idea just as long as you a) don't ruin the friendship and b) LEAVE YOUR FRIENDS GIRLFRIENDS ALONE YOU SLEAZY BASTARD. I'm not in the "QUICK TELL HIM BEFORE YOU EXPLODE" camp purely because if it was a one time thing and you regret it won't do it again etc it's not worth destroying a friendship over.

[shadowgrin]

Here's a question for all of ya, which woman would you want so bad that you're willing to ruin a friendship over?

I guess it's Mila Kunis for Doobie, assuming Doobie hadn't done it yet irl.

[benji]

Edit: Oh crap, it looks like I'm responding to shadow's question with this. So to prove my amazing heterosexuality, I'll say Jenna Fischer.

Or Helen Thomas. Wait, I shouldn't even joke about that.

[Jackal]

Rape? I heard rape? Who said rape? Who said it? Rape? Raping? Can we tag team? Hi? Rape plz? No? Rape nao?

[Patr1ck]

Oh no you made out with a woman after drinking all night and talking with her! Welcome to get-over-it land. It would be kind of different if she swallowed your kids or something. Don't get all hearty and feely about it. It could be an opening for the future, so chill. Worst thing you can do is start acting insecure...

"So...about the other night..."

"Yeah we were so wasted!"

"I know! We ended up making out by the bathroom."

"That was YOU?"
(vomits)

Really, it wouldn't hurt to ask her like an adult and just clear the airwaves. Just say you were meaning to ask her about it. Getting rejected isn't going to be any different then not asking at all, since you still won't have her. She has a man, maybe she likes a little something on the side. Basically what Jae said. Agree with whatever she sais though.

How did you end up making out with her on the way to the bathroom anyway? Who initiated it?

Maybe it's not bad karma. Maybe it's a sign that reads. "Hi, Doobie. See this girl? Yeah, it's not happening, except for your buddy. Remember that bitch the other night, though? That's all you, Doobs."

I kind of contradicted myself but I guess that goes with different ways of looking at it.

[Jackal]

I think the fact Doobie takes little breaks in between of his little attention-whoring makes a lot of people put up with him.

Grow some motherfucking balls you little bitch. Jeez. Enough with the woe is me & my life and I'm such a fuck up but I will try to better myself thing. It's a whole rinse & repeat thing going on. It's like Lanky Man 2.0.

Maybe I'm just a dick, who knows. Carry on the self pity show.

[Andrew]

Here's a question for all of ya, which woman would you want so bad that you're willing to ruin a friendship over?

Alyson Hannigan.

Or Mila Kunis, which of course would make things awkward with Doobie.

[Oznogrd]

Salma Hayek/Rosario Dawson. Either/Or

[cyanide]

Salma Hayek/Rosario Dawson. Either/Or

It's like you read my mind! I'll also add Christina Hendricks.

[J@3]

Nina Dobrev, Ana Beatriz Barros, Jacqueline MacInnes Wood

[NovU]

Avril Lavigne, Natalie Imbruglia and Tiger Wood's wife.

[Patr1ck]

Random actress, random singer, random model.

[Jackal]

Pdub, Shadowgrin & Sauru.

[Oznogrd]

Pdub, Shadowgrin & Sauru.

I got left out? man..that hurts. I thought we had something

[Jackal]

I don't know if I'd jeapordize my friendship for what you & I have.

Getting you out of the chair to face me is such a hassle sometimes.

[Lean]

How about all those sexy times Jackal?