More Doobie dramz.

[Doobie]

Haven't posted here in a while, been working two jobs and going to the gym. Now I'm writing here because I want advice of someone who has been in this situation. Moving out. I'm basically being forced out of my house by my mother, and I have no idea what to do. My dad's house is no longer an option, and my mom's house is pretty much out of the picture too. I'm sick and tired of the constant bitching and how she puts me down for everything. I have been working like an animal just to PAY her the rent that she charges me to live with her. Now she is taking my room from me and making me sleep in a tiny room upstairs, all for the same price. I pay 250$ a month to live with my own mother. That isn't counting the cable bill, cell phone bill, and car insurance that I pay as well. All that for a total of 530$ a month. I am also 3,800$ in debt with the hospital ( no insurance) and still paying off my car. I am about to blow up, I want to go back to school in september, but I have no time since my only option is to work as much as I can to be able to support myself.

So this is where the issues start. I decided to cancel the insurance of my car since it broke down and I have no money to fix it. My insurance is under my moms name and by canceling it her car insurance more then doubled because there are 2 drivers in the house and one car. Because of that she sort of asked me to move out, without literally saying it. She told me it'd be better if I left so she can save money. That is an insult, and like Jae said before I should leave before my relationship with my mom completely dies. She told me her life would be easier if I didn't exist. Like I mentioned before my dad is no longer an option, I haven't spoken to him in months and his phone is completely disconnected, and no one I know has found a way of reaching him. Not even his own sister. They might be lying but he isn't an option anymore to me.

Now to moving out, I have nobody who I'd trust enough to be a roomate at this point in my life. All my friends are in college and have no need to move out, I'm the only one with the issues. I live in one of the most expensive places in the universe, considering a one bedroom apartment in the slums of this town is 800$ a month, with utilities not included. I live 10 minutes away from New York City, which is why things are so expensive here. So here I am, no car, almost 4,000$ in debt, and about to be homeless. I only have one job now that pays 9.00$ an hour, and I make about 250$ a week now. My dreams of going to school will have to wait. I feel like I've just about run out of options, and now I just have to ask the question to you guys, what do I do? Make fun of me all you want cause all I do is complain.

[J@3]

I moved out of home when I was 18, only instead of just finding another house I upped and went to another state on my own. It was tough to start but easily the smartest/best thing I've ever done for myself. A couple of my friends just got back from the US, they traveled most of the country and said NY was retardedly expensive compared to everywhere else. So really, unless you have some absolute need to be in New York I'd be moving further out if I were you. Even if you have to share a place for a few months to save up enough to move into your own house, it's better than trying to live off $50 a week (which is what you'd be doing going by what you said the apartments cost). If the US is anything like Australia when it comes to property/rentals, location is everything. I just moved from a 2 bedroom unit 20 minutes from the city, to a 4 bedroom, 2 bathroom, 2 living room house 30 minutes from the city and am paying $50 a week more. For comparative purposes, for a house this size in my old town (which is maybe a 20 minute drive from here) would easily cost $600 a month more than what I'm paying now.

So basically, if you're completely out of options maybe it's time to go somewhere else. If you don't want to share accommodation and your income doesn't cover your living expenses then you probably have no real choice either way.

[Doobie]

It looks like I might have too move someowhere farther but then I have the issue of worrying about getting a job again and since I have no car, traveling might be a pain. I am trying to reach my cousin in Florida to see if she can help me out, but as of now she hasn't called back.

[NovU]

Damn. I've honestly never been in your shoes. It sounds like one fucking tough situation. So basically you are telling us that you have to start paying $800 now from $250 you've been paying for the roof over your head. You don't seem to have an option but to stay. Or consider a suburban area where the rent is cheaper. And you work 2 jobs and still only make $250/week? I know economy is bad, but...

Btw, how much is minimum wage there? I'm surprised you only make $9/hour, since here where I am, that is the minimum wage(CDN currency is strong as fuck too.) and the crap jobs at construction will pay you $15/hour at least. But then there's a tax ofc, but not really applicable to minimum jobs or those under $24000 inc annually. Ofc, economy is bad here as well, but if you are a decent hard working man, there always seems to be chances.

[Doobie]

No i work one job now and make 250 a week, when I worked 2 jobs I made over 600 a week. Staying isn't really an option anymore as I'm slowly getting pushed out. Minimum wage here is 7.25$ an hour, so 9.00$ an hour isn't that bad.

[JaoSming]

got any degrees or abilities that could let you work a "professional" job instead of $9/hr jobs?


you need to get away from the city if you want your bills to balance. how much is your cell phone? maybe cancel that if it costs a lot and get Wally World's plan, it's been working well for Kathryn and is 30 bucks a month for "limited" 1000min/1000txt/30mb or 45 for unlimited.

cable will obviously end, wherever you go, get a new company for it to get promotional rates.


You could venture up into Connecticut for cheaper rent if you get away from the coast.

[Patr1ck]

My insurance is under my moms name and by canceling it her car insurance more then doubled because there are 2 drivers in the house and one car.

Your not saying that your Mom now has a higher bill for the car insurance than she was with you and the car on it, right? If that's the truth, then it's bullshit, or you were paying for more of her share before.

You don't need cable or a cellphone plan. Get a go-phone(prepaid minutes). Sell the crap you don't need. Ride a bike or a skateboard, or run.

You are her son. You are a man trying to hold it down. She sounds real selfish. What is she paying of yours that would allow her to save money if you left? Food?

[The X]

Room with some random people. I more or less got booted out of my Dad's place (I was paying $50 per week at time out of $120 weekly earnings) at 18 by my step-mother, but that was alright, I wanted to go. So I got more work then moved out & the first place I lived in was a shithole, $30 per week but wouldn't have a rat live there. Could only fit a single bed & nothing else in there That year I ended up living in 6 different houses due to flats/housing arrangements (average rent about $65 per week excluding utilities etc but this was about a decade a go so same place would now cost double that, then again I was working at a supermarket for $6.45 per hour so ho hum) disintegrating. It can get pretty discouraging but you gotta keep your head up. If you have to, you can go cheap. You don't need anything more than electricity, prepaid mobile, no landline, no internet, no contents insurance (since you're so poor that you have nothing worth stealing), car insurance (3rd party, always a must) & car (depending on which city you live & how close to public transport you may be able to live without this also).

So yep, you'll just have to share with people & it doesn't need to be in NYC. If you want to go to college, perhaps you can find a city/town with more reasonable rent, share the place with some random people (good way to meet new people anyways) & find a way to go to college there.

Good luck, keep your head up. What doesn't kill you will only make you stronger I was able to do it whilst do university, so I'm sure you can too. I'm not saying it's easy, but life ain't easy & that is the way it is.

[shadowgrin]

Didn't you mention in a post that you have a brother Doobie? Any chance he can help you?