i dont know, i have the same exact promblem. Ecept with mine, it shut downs before the ref, even has time to throw up the ball!!!
But i did find out, people cheat by plugging out their modems, so you get a automatic loss. Play a person with higher ping. You should be fine.
And dont play high rated players, players that have ratings, such as 1900, or 1800, will quit.
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