Age Difference

[Nick]

I think the 2 year rules, or any pre-concieved idea of what age is wrong or right isn't the way you should be.

If your both adults, it's fine. whether you're 21 or 35. But in Doobie's case, and other teenage cases, there can be a massive gap between a 15 and 17/18 year old. And it can be quite touchy and trivial. However, i reckon 15/16 year old females are at the same maturity and mental state as 17/18 males year old MOST of the time. And most of the time, in the teenage relationships, the male is usually older.

So don't feel bad about an age gap Doobie. Like Mathyou said, age is essentially just a number. You can start to feel bad about it if there is a noticable physical and mental difference imo.

I think 15 and 18 might be a bit much though... Though i haven't met her.

[Andrew]

My suggestion of a two year age gap wasn't meant as a set-in-stone rule. Aside from taking into account maturity it also considers the age of consent. If you're 17/18, anyone more than a couple of years younger than you is going to be 14 going on 15 which could potentially cause problems with the former and could definitely be an issue with the latter.

[Joe']

The 16 year old girls I know look and act more mature than most guys of my age, so I don't think there's something wrong with it

That means you used to date guys of your age?

Anyways, seeing a guy who is 18 dating a girl who is 14-15 just doesn't look good, and most of the times the girls are just dating that boy because he's older. And people would also think that the boy isn't able to date a girl of his age so he dates a girl three years younger.
But if you feel good being with her, all this things don't matter, just be sure she feels it the same way.

[8-Hype]

Here's my personal point of view. I think that the difference should be no more than one and a half years. If, for instance, two adolescent people have an relationship and a 16 year old boy dates a 14 year old girl, the product will be no good, because the state of mind is just too unequal. 16 and 15 year old would be alright, because here the difference isn't as big. The best scenario is two people the same age, of course.

Girls shouldn't be older than boys, until the age of 18, which means that an 16 year old wouldn't fit to and 17 year old girl. Girls are just not so much interested in younger guys and a relationship wouldn't last too long. Now, as for the age from 18, the restrictions are as follows: Grown-up males (18 and up) could date girls that haven't yet reached the age of 18, but they should not have sex with them, and the age difference shouldn't be more than one year. If both are 18 and over, it should work perfectly regarding all kinds of aspects. And 18 year old males could also date 19 year old females (difference shouldn't be more than 1.5 years, as I said).

As for the looks, girls aged 18 and up usually dress more exclusively than girls below the age of 18. Those who haven't reached the age of consent try to be attractive through figure accenting clothing which oftentimes looks just cheap and repulsive. They just try to draw the attention. Elegantly dressed girls have much more appeal and charisma.

[felix8621]

it´s not that big difference.. i say go for it.

[Stevesanity]

What Jae said essentially.

Personally i wouldn't go minus 2, mostly because that would mean that the chick can't drink and is still in HS.

That's true, but drinking wouldn't be a big factor to me. I'm not a big fan of drinking. If you do decide to sleep with her, make sure you do it before you turn 18 though.

Chicks that drink or smoke is a huge turn off, I'd rather have a sober chick that remembers me screwing her than one that won't and would probably screw someone else pretty easily on a night out if the correct amount of beer's in her system.

As for the age gap I'm pretty much with Jae on it, while a 60 year old woman/man going out with a 35 year old woman/man is something I find pretty weird and disgusting I'd say 5 year gaps after 25+ is alright but I ain't supportive of 18 year olds going with 13 year olds or 25 year olds going out with 16 year olds etc.

[koberulz]

one girl i know went out with a 12 year old guy when she was 9. that's just wrong. last time i checked, 9 year olds wouldnt go near someone of the opposite sex, for fear of germs, much less go out with them.

[8-Hype]

Well, you cannot speak of a relationship in that case. This is just being friends. I mean, how could a 12 and 9 year old have a serious relationship?

[koberulz]

it wasn't friends. lord knows what the hell was going on there, but from what i was told they were more than friends.