Sit's Story Thread (Help needed with Problem)

[COOLmac©]

oo...i think you're about to start another hormone filled discussionn again SIT.

anyways why'd she hinted this only to you? i guess she likes you in many ways.....man the girl is leaning towards you about sexuality------->she want's you to "HELP" her......

[Fresh8]

umm... i would hope that we can be a bit mature in this... becuase shes real important to me. I dont want to see her get hurt.

[Jowe]

You don't really have to tell her anything, or give her advice. With girls, all you really have to do is listen to them.


ps. Lesbians rock .

[Fresh8]

haha... all righty. Well, thats what im doing im listening...

but what can i tell her when shes like going crazy...

[The X]

it's all good....tell her you'll help her however you can through the rocky times....I've had a suicidal mate or two who have worked through their problems....at times you feel like you're but it can help them....as Jowe said, listening is a huge thing....people just need to get crap off their chests and not bottle it in....an ear is probably the best thing you can give her, even though you might want to give her something else (sorry, couldn't help that one )....

just be there....


p.s. I got your cyberface, let me know which NBA star's fro you want?!? Big Ben's?

[Fresh8]

Shes like a sister to me (No X, dont like incest!) because she's been listening to me heaps... i think i want top shar eit with the forum.. but only when im ready.. so that everyone can learn wat i learnt...

Give me Ben's fro! lol

[Fresh8]

I'm back with another story. I know that some people are interested in other people's 'love stories'... well, here is Part 3 of mine. It's never ending, I don't know when it's gonna end but maybe this is actually the last straw. I hope this is the last installment of it.. so please enjoy...

My Chick III

Last Time: This chick who decided we wouldn't work out starts not talking to me. And then we tried to work things out and I lost a necklace and knew it was over. And I thoguht I was over her... she said she didn't like me so I guess I was cool with that. I was ready to move on... or was I?

I've got to admit, this whole thing is turning into one soap opera. But when I think of what's happened I actually laugh. Surely, it's not very normal for a high school crush to be this exciting at least.

We left from Part 2 with me losing the necklace that this chick gave me for christmas. I had thought I was over this chick but I was wrong... again. I have got admit that I am 'whipped' about this girl. And the longer we didn't talk, the harder it was for me.

And the next day at shopping town I threw something at the bin and missed. It landed behind the bin, so I moved it to retrieve it. Guess what I found? The necklace.

I had thought, 'It's been here overnight and noones swept it up and thrown it in a bin... maybe I should keep it.' So I did keep it. Maybe it was a bad move. I thoguht the item did hold some sentimental value and now I know what it is. But the whole story needs to be told for you to understand!

The following two weeks were great. I had heaps of fun and didn't really think about her all too much. It was that week when I was told she liked someone else. I was ahppy for her. Until I found out it was my friend and he didn't say shit to her. So I rang up and asked him... 'Do you like her?'

He didn't know I did like her and he said no. To tell you the truth, if he had liked her... I wouldn't have made him not say yes to her. I'm not that much of a jerk but because he didn't like her, I asked him to make his answer less hurting and make up some excuse for not being able to go out with her. I thought it was great at the time and now I still think I must was unselfish for not forcing him into anything wrong. I think I did the right thing.

Not long after this incident, we were getting along well again. I knew she was sad and she felt bad for not being able to tell me she liked my friend. And I was told she was trying to get over him, so I tried to make every day of hers as much enjoyable as possible. I told her I was over her so taht she'd feel a little better for liking him. Maybe it was the things I did but her friends satrted telling her that I wasn't over her.

Noone is sure how she felt... but the weird thing is that she didn't take it badly or anything. I don't understand and her friends don't either.

And then the rumours came. All of the grade were guessing we were going out. Random people started walking up to me and her asking how long we had been together. Then the absurd rumours like, 'They were going out but broke up' and 'Sit got rejected 3 times in 1 week.' (The second rumour cracked me up real good! )

The rumours are still around but at that time, they were wild. Everyone, for some stupid reason, were talking about it.

I didn't take too much notice into this. I was happy to be with her, even if we were only friends. And now that I think of it, I am so whipped. The following is just one CLEAR example: See the Stitch doll? It is real important to me... I got it from CHina in my trip with my class... it's the only thing which is still in one piece actually! And I even gave it to her... that's how crazy it is. All the other chicks were asking to borrow it and I rejected all of them except her. And I gave it to her... that's what you get for being whipped!

The nightly phonecalls started coming... every single night. For at least an hour of talking junk. Seriously, all the signs started to point to those false stories about the two of us. And being the guy who is 'in love', I didn't care. I just don't understand why she didn't.

That's why I'm thinking maybe she likes the attention. I have no idea. And if I ever find out she was using me, I'd really never want to see her again! That's for sure! But I trust her from what she's actually told me these last few days... that's not the thing that's happening.

Enter Exam Block: The two of us are closer than usual. You could just feel it and it was only last Thursday afternoon, we decided to talk. About my life. Yeah, we shared our secrets to each other and you may ask why I'm telling you this but it ties up with the end of the story.

Come Weekend: She moved out of the boarding house to live with her aunt for the holidays. And she agreed to come out to the city with me on Sunday.

I thought she would have asked a few friends to join us. When I met her on our bus, I was surprised. She hadn't asked anyone to come with us. The day was even more bizarre for me and hard to handle. How sus does this sound? We spent four straight hours, me taing her to different places; from CHinatown to the City to Markets and then to South Bank (A place in brissie obviously!). And for as long as we walked, we talked the whole time.. it was nonstop!

What was the most weird part was that we went to three different places for 'lunch.' We went to a horrible asian restaurant and shared some food- fair enough... that sounds fine right? The next place was a dessert bar and what happened there was weird. She asked to share dessert... I was fine with that but wehen we went to some Ice Tea Bar and we bought one ice tea she took a sip and shoved it in my face. I don't understand why that happened... if she never wanted to go out with me, why the hell was she doing this when she knows how I used to feel... it just wasn't right.

It was all good I guess until Monday.

I don't know what happened... but it was hell fast. I had agreed to take her to 'Hitch' ages ago and i thoguht I'd take her on Tuesday. Monday night, she told me how she had iunvited another friend of ours a week prior to all of this and I said I was cool with that. Until that friend of ours rang up even more people to come.

And when those people started pranking and scaring my friends I decided to ring some old mates to bash them up. My chick friend asked what the problem was and asked if we could go to a later session. Noticing I had screwed up.. I said that I couldn't make it and the fact that I had arranged for the people's bashing... made her angry. I don't know why but she called me selfish and never wanted to see me again.

So I didn't go on Tuesday but on Wednesday... a war of words occured and you will see them soon...

(To Be Continued)

[J@3]

Really interesting read... seriously though you actually told her that you couldn't go because you had to go bash some people up? That's just plain stupid.

[Fresh8]

My Chick III (Continued)

The words she said to me... she said that I was too selfish and always put myself first. I decided to try and find out why myself... here is our exchange of emails...

First Email to Her:

I don't know what I did to be able to be called 'selfish' and accused of all the things I talk about are about myself. Really, I don't know how I put myself first? It doesn't make any sense to me at all! Seriously, you need to ask yourself what did I actually do wrong?

Sure, I ditched you and Guy but it wasn't People's fault. And the problem about them doesn't involve any of you guys. I didn't go to the movies because I couldn't make it. And I respect you. If you don't want to talk to me; I'm fine with that! Actually, it doesn't really matter too much to me if I don't have to talk to you ever again.

If you want to know the whole situation, I admit I overreacted but it's from watching my friend get worse and worse every year and you feel you can't do anything to help him. It's hard!

He has always been threatening me over the phone if I say no to seeing a movie he's organising. This started in Grade 9. I have no problem with that but the continuity of it for two and a half years and then sudden silence... and then it starts again. It's not very good to me because I am becoming scared of his sanity and how he's going to cope if he pranks the wrong people. I understand he's going through tough times but someone needs to get him some help. But I can't because I don't know what's going on.

I did think at first, maybe I could teach him a lesson. But I held back because it was wrong. Violence doesn't fix any problems and I was going the wrong way about it. However, at first I did think, 'The lesson is better taught earlier than later.' And that's why I contemplated about what I could do in the situation.

What other things do you want me to tell you? And I still don't understand why you said, 'Why does it always have to be about you?' Can you please tell me?

I'm worried for your safety. If you keep on breaking ties with your friends over petty incidents and reasons, one day half the world will be breathing down your neck. You will feel it.

Will

First Reply:

look, by selfish, i didn't mean that you were always talking about yourself. by selfish, i meant you're NEVER talking about yourself. i never know about all the bloody crucial points about your life. remember the whole thing about your sister? i found out through someone else and there i was thinking that i did know lots about you only to find out that there was so much more important things other than just simply the music you listen to.

i'm really tired of finding out about you through other people. i've never kept anything from you. everything you've asked and wanted to know, i've told you. i never intentionally left out anything. but you've always kept stuff from me. i'm pretty sure there's so much more in you that you haven't told me and don't plan to tell me for some reason. i've never said anything 'cause i'm waiting for you to tell me but just the wait is annoying. i trust you enough to tell you everything, but i guess it's kinda like me trying to clap with one fucking hand.

when i asked you if you would come to the movies and you said no, it was bloody obvious that something else. why couldn't you tell me? i asked you, don't say i didn't cause i know bloody well i asked you more than once what's wrong and you wouldn't answer. that was the last straw for me. i was tired of asking the wall for answers. that's when shit really hit the fan, i guess.

so you thought bashing him in was the answer? i'm glad you got the whole thing straight cause you're damn right, it won't make him alright. it's not your place to try to set him straight anyway, he's gotta figure it out himself and you know that.

now you know what i meant by selfish. in any case, i think you've always known but was just using this as a stupid excuse. if i'm wrong, so be it.
don't give me that about breaking ties with my friends over petty incidents and reasons. you have no idea how much my friends can mean to me, and by friends, i include you and mel. if i get pissed off at my friends, i do so for a valid excuse. i have never failed to give my friends the benefit of the doubt.

you are in no position to lecture me about this. u wanna tell me that you don't keep grudges and then tell me that you won't talk to me ever again? bloody contradictory. think before u speak, will. worry about my safety? if you wanna keep jumping to shit that won't solve the problem, i worry about yours.

Second Email:

That is why I neevr came... you can either take it or leave it at that. About my sister, the person didn't know anything except that she ran away, the only thing the person knows about is what I face at home every day. The person knows because she was the only one I could talk to over the christmas period when I needed help most.

Look, maybe sometimes people get caught up in their and they might not want to talk about their problems... has that ever occurred to you? Hello, sometimes people just aren't in the mood to talk! You've got to respect that. And no, I didn't understand what you meant by calling me selfish. What else do you want me to tell you? I really don't understand. Really, sometimes I do doubt whether some people even care so why should I tell everyone about what's going on???

About Guy. Maybe it isn't my place. I'm not in his 'inner circle' of friends anymore. But I just can't stand here and watch him get worse without doing anything. Yes, I admit, maybe I was rushing things. Maybe I did overreact to it all but that's only because I want the best for the people around me. And I try to give as much as I can to all my closer friends- try to fulfil their desires... obviously I can't give them everything they want but I try.I want Guy to stay stable. Sure, his head isn't in the best condition, but we can prevent it from getting worse. His friends are doing jack all about it and i I can't do anythnig because I don't know about it.

And I say, if you don't want to talk to me because of all of this, it's fine with me. But if you want to move on, I told you already- I'm not the type that holds grudges. But think about it, if you can get annoyed that you don't feel like you're being told things then maybe you're not supposed to find out or maybe that person (ie. me) doesn't want you to worry. Or maybe you aren't at the top of EVERYONE's 'To Tell' list.

I'm not in any position to lecture you? I'm not lecturing you, only warning you that maybe you should get ur thick little head to understand that maybe you aren't as great as you think you are. You read/heard me, you think you are so damn good... it's ridiculous. Sure, I could share everything with you and some thnigs I do share with you. But sometimes, I don't feel obliged to have to tell you every little detail about me!

Don't tell me in order to be a friend you have to swap stories and shit like that. That is fucking bullshit. Some friends are closer than others... I don't feel that we are that close. OK, u get the goddamn idea??? Ur not as close to me which therefore means, I do not have to tell u jack all!

U can call me rash, egotistical and a bastard. But I stand by my decisions. I take back none of these words that I have written to you today and they all ring true to me.

Go and fucking clap with one hand. At least it makes a sound. Because I know you won't be hearing any from me any time soon!

Second Reply

i'm not asking you to tell everyone your problems, but people care for you and you just don't see it. you see them as annoying people who are just trying to barge into your life. i hope you're happy now that there's one less annoying person who cares and worries about you and only thought that you'd be better telling someone instead of keeping everything to yourself.

i never thought of myself of great and i never intend to think of myself as that. you know that.. you fuckin know that! i never ever said to be friends, we gotta tell each other shit. to be friends, u don't have to feel fuckin obliged to tell shit, u just do. get that straight, will and maybe someday, you'll get the whole concept of friendship. i'm sorry that i wasn't good enough to be your friend. u try clapping with one fucking hand and tell me if it fucking makes a sound. cause it doesn't. scratch that, don't bother telling me. cause at least i KNOW it doesn't.

Third Email

Sometimes I ask myself, why did I even care for you. I do understand that people want to help their friends. But there is nothing you can do to force them to tell you things they don't want to say in the first place. I'm going to be brief... u better watch ur back in the future. I'm not as crazy as people think I am but there are people in the world who use their friends and leave them behind. You gotta think about who really does care.

I'm out like we are out of this stupid 'friendship' that I'm supposed to have not understood. (Call me cocky or arrogant but I do not take anything I have said back!)

Third Reply

key word being 'did', i can say the same about you.

i don't expect you take anything back since 'i'm so fuckin great'

Final Email

You can quote me on this. I don't regret anything I have said and I promise to myself that I will never ever talk to you again!

- And that's what happened... in about an hour, We decdied never to talk to each other again!

(To Be Continued...)

[Fresh8]

My Chick III (Continued)

* Please note that the emails above are edited not to include other people's names...

So after all of this we aren't talking. I'm not sure if it is all worth it actually because of one incident. I found out that my words hurt her more than I thought... she was crying to her friends about it. But half of them said it was becuase of the things I said and the other half said it was becuase of losing me.

I'm not sure about what to think. I'm pretty sure I don't want to talk to her ever again. But there are questions that I need answered... somehow.

I need to know why hasn't she ever given me a straight answer about being together. The whole 'I'm not good enough for you' isn't clear to me at all. And if it she deosn't wanna be with me, why the hell did she even agree to come out with me on Sunday?

I'm puzzled by how all of her friends keep annoying her about me and if they haven't gotten to her head about me, she can't be so blind to not notice that I am not over her yet... why hasn't she talked to me about it?

If she can't even talk to me about all of this, how the hell can she expect me to tell her my problems... she's contradicting herself on this one!

So my question to everyone. Am I being a asshole to her?

By the way, about the necklace... I'm going to give it back to her on the first day back to school... to show that we will definately never be friends again...

[J@3]

This is great post more emails.

[Fresh8]

Oh btw... I tried clapping with one hand... it did make a bit of a sound!

[The X]

don't worry Sit, even with age, you'll never understand it....I don't know many guys who do

[AlwaysWhat,NeverWhy]

Oh my, private e-mails in public view? This is looking more like a soap opera by the day.

One advice from me, Sit: Never have the girl you are interested in listen to you use the word chick in reference to anything else that a domesticated livestock. That word does not agree with their system. Just a word of caution,there...

[The X]

an analogy that might help you, me & everyone else understand women a little bit better....

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A group of girlfriends is on vacation when they see a 5-story hotel with a sign that reads: "For Women Only." Since they are without their boyfriends and husbands, they decide to go in.

The bouncer, a very attractive guy, explains to them how it works. "We have 5 floors. Go up floor by floor, and once you find what you are looking for, you can stay there. It's easy to decide since each floor has a sign telling you what's inside."

So they start going up and on the first floor the sign reads: "All the men on this floor are short and plain." The friends laugh and without hesitation move on to the next floor.

The sign on the second floor reads: "All the men here are short and handsome." Still, this isn't good enough, so the friends continue on up.

They reach the third floor and the sign reads: "All the men here are tall and plain."

They still want to do better, and so, knowing there are still two floors left, they continued on up.

On the fourth floor, the sign is perfect: "All the men here are tall and handsome." The women get all excited and are going in when they realize that there is still one floor left. Wondering what they are missing, they head on up to the fifth floor.

There they find a sign that reads: "There are no men here.

This floor was built only to prove that there is no way to please a woman."

I hope this helps

[J@3]

ah the mysteries of life explained.

[FendeR`]

Sit, you need a TV show to explain all this :p . And I like this story about women in particular- http://www.stwing.upenn.edu/~jenf/writing/rant04.html

[Fresh8]

Thats a great story X.. lol

Agent Dweaver99027... she has no idea I talk about her as chick... i dont think she'd like that very much...

I agree too.. all of this is getting out of hand because she's blowing it out of proportion. Seriously, what does she want me to tell her? lol And I think I can make a mopvie out of this too! Maybe get big bucks especially with what I tell her and all the other girls think its sweet... so maybe some lines in a movie could bring in huge profit!

And FenDeR'... i read the story... its so true man! its so true... lol So who else here is a nice guy???

[Jowe]

Shes taking it out of proportion?
Look at yourself, you turned into a friggin psycho after she rejected you.

Sometimes girls turn guys down the 1st time to see what kind of person they really are when they are rejected. You my friend failed miserably.

High school crush's hardly ever work anyway.

[Fresh8]

The Ring 2

I wasa forced into seeing it... so I guess I will talk about this movie.

I never saw the first one so I didn't know what to expect. Let's just say I am sort of scarred because I'm the type of people who get scared easily from these type of films. This one wasn't any exception!

The movie is about some chick who was murdered by her mother or something... I have no idea. But its centered on the main character; Rachael and how she is trying to prevent the ghost from possessing her son.

Quite a few creepy moments in the film actually. At many stages I was actually holding onto my legs... feet off the ground on the end of my chair and sometimes closed my eyes. See how much of a chicken I was? lol I'm serious, problem was that the only thing scary... was the dead girl; Samara. When she takes over the little boy's body, now thats scary but definately not too scary. And the dead guys faces are just disgusting.. she is what makes the film scary.

There are a few scenes in the movie which are stuck in my mind. But I guess I won't say them until people actually go and see it. Let's just say I can't have my room door closed while alone or sleeping... at least not for a while lol. And the Dead girls' mom... has anyone noticed how the nose resembles' Michael Jackson's??? I couldn't stop laughing. However, its sad to see the different people who die in the film.. u just feel sorry for them.

One part of the plot is summed up by one line; 'The Dead never sleep.' Someone tell me how did Rachael drup the ghost if she cant sleep???

If you aren't a fan of horror, I think you shouldn't touch this movie. If you are, you should make your way down to the local cinema. It's worth 10 bucks... happy ending and all! Although the story ios somewhat screwed up... see it and if you like it- go for the Jap versions! I was told that they were way better...

[Fresh8]

Yo Jowe... I know I failed real miserably lol. But when u said i turned psyco.. wat did u mean by that?

[J@3]

At many stages I was actually holding onto my legs... feet off the ground on the end of my chair and sometimes closed my eyes.

good thing you weren't with a girl. Someone would've been bound to say "who's the bitch in that relationship?"

Yo Jowe... I know I failed real miserably lol. But when u said i turned psyco.. wat did u mean by that?

I think he might've meant this...

I'm worried for your safety. If you keep on breaking ties with your friends over petty incidents and reasons, one day half the world will be breathing down your neck. You will feel it.

I'm not in any position to lecture you? I'm not lecturing you, only warning you that maybe you should get ur thick little head to understand that maybe you aren't as great as you think you are. You read/heard me, you think you are so damn good... it's ridiculous.

Don't tell me in order to be a friend you have to swap stories and shit like that. That is fucking bullshit. Some friends are closer than others... I don't feel that we are that close. OK, u get the goddamn idea??? Ur not as close to me which therefore means, I do not have to tell u jack all!

U can call me rash, egotistical and a bastard. But I stand by my decisions. I take back none of these words that I have written to you today and they all ring true to me.

Go and fucking clap with one hand. At least it makes a sound. Because I know you won't be hearing any from me any time soon!

I'm out like we are out of this stupid 'friendship' that I'm supposed to have not understood. (Call me cocky or arrogant but I do not take anything I have said back!)

You can quote me on this. I don't regret anything I have said and I promise to myself that I will never ever talk to you again!

And what did she do to provoke this reaction? Said she wanted you to open up more what a bitch! How dare she care

[Fresh8]

I'm puzzled by it... wat else can I tell her??? -_-"

[Jowe]

The next time you try to talk to her, you'll be in a courtroom getting handed a restraining order.